Does anybody have the courage to ask themselves the hard questions in life? Presently I have gone back and forth in my own mind if I am even asking myself the hard questions that would truly improve my walk with the Lord. For example, all people have issues with different areas of their life and can choose certain ways to handle these issues. One issue that many individuals are having when it comes to the Christian culture is the church. Instead of church being a place of community, fellowship, and worship it has become a place that individuals make themselves feel better for being a Christian at least one day a week. All of a sudden church has become a check on our to-do list instead of a group of people coming together to love one another and live life together, which Jesus has called us to do.
I was recently involved in a debate between friends and new acquaintances. It really got me thinking about the real truth behind people seeing what church is to them. A few of the people around the table were bible college students, pastors, and people hurt by the church growing up that lead them elsewhere in their beliefs. Of course the topic of religion and Christianity came up and the conversation was heated. From this debate I learned more about the church and the different ways church has made an impact on people. Anytime people are involved in a church, individuals are going to get hurt, it’s just inevitable. I found myself stuck in-between two sides of the debate. There was the “on fire” Christians who are highly involved in the church and the non-churchgoers who have been hurt by the church early on in life. I am familiar with both side of the debate (not just knowledgeable about both sides but experienced both sides) but really listening to the context of the conversation I came to a conclusion.
Nobody is asking the hard questions! The debate was continually going in circles because nobody wanted to offend anyone on a personal level. The only personal question that sparked a thought in my mind was asked by the individuals who were hurt by the church, “Do you really live the way Jesus wants you to live?” Now to the Christians at the table the answer was textbook. It sounded something like this; “I strive everyday to glorify God but will never be perfect because of the presence of sin in our lives”. Good answer, but it really doesn’t help our cause as Christians. The people who are hurt by the church or dislike the church still think we are hypocrites. This brings me to the question that should have been asked by the “on fire” Christians. Instead of turning away from the church, why didn’t you take on the challenge of showing others in the church that the life they are living is not honouring to God? Instead of turning away from the church, why join all the people who live to the world’s standards? If you are hurt so badly by a group of people than why did you let them win?
There is a passage in the Bible that comes to mind when I need to get my thoughts back on track. Proverbs 4:4-5: “Then he taught me and said to me, ‘Let your heart hold fast my words; Keep my commandments and live; Acquire wisdom! Acquire understanding! Do not forget nor turn away from the words of my mouth’”. Sometimes we come up with our own opinions and understanding about the way we should live our life, instead of focusing on the true understanding and wisdom of God. The hard question that I need to ask is “Have I been in a daily walk with the Lord, or am I foolishly leaning on my own understanding?”
No matter where you are at in your life, please take a step back and ask the hard questions. Even if it has nothing to do with religion, we always take the easy way out in life and just blame others for things that happened to us. Who cares if others hurt you or me, if you truly want to take the next step in life, do something about it! Stop pointing fingers at others and point it at you first. You may find the answer you are looking for and it might just change your life.